I’m Not a Traditional Dominatrix

I’m friends with several women who identify as a Professional Dominatrix (ProDomme).

During the initial meeting with a potential client I explain why I don’t consider myself a traditional ProDomme. The first being that I do paid sessions because I enjoy doing so. I use them to fill in some of my free time. I don’t do sessions because I need the money, or because I view it as a side hustle, or an actual job. Basically, I could take it or leave it. I feel free to accept potential clients I believe are compatible with me and not accepting them because I need additional finances.

I have an extensive screening process that doesn’t allow clients to have immediate gratification. I don’t have initial meetings and a first session on the same day. I always need advanced notice to schedule anything, sometimes a few weeks prior. Some potential clients simply want to email me and ask for an address for a same-day appointment. I recommend Dungeons that house ProDomme services, or ProDommes I know that may accept clients without much notice.

I’m a concrete thinker and my mind doesn’t allow me to convincingly engage in roleplay. Potential clients who have a preconceived notion that real-life sessions are as they viewed in porn aren’t a good fit for me. I’m not good at pretending to be mean or a sexual tease. I don’t do degradation or humiliation, which is a popular type of play scene.

I don’t dress in fetish wear (corsets, leather boots or high heels, tight skirts, latex body suits, etc.). I’ve had potential clients tell me it’s okay to wear leather or a PVC suit during their session. I tell them I dress for comfort and am likely to wear leggings, a t-shirt, and socks without shoes. I admit to not being someone’s fantasy based on what they saw in porn. Ironically, I sometimes wear corsets or other items viewed as fetish wear when I attend play events or formal dinners.

I spend time with potential clients in the initial meeting as an attempt to understand their psyche. I’m interested in why they seek such sessions, what their desired outcome is, and whether or not they have a support system they can vocally share this part of their life with. There’re times I feel like a counselor, especially with clients who are married with an unaware spouse at home. I always encourage them to share their desires with their spouse and to determine if their spouse is willing to explore kinks with them or, in the least, consent to them seeking exploration elsewhere.

I stopped advertising years ago, with the exception of the Miss Dion’s World page on this website. There are some challenges to posting ads online, including the influx of messages from people not really wanting to actually schedule a meeting or session. There’s many who’re content to share their interests and seek to utilize someone else’s time without any type of commitment or respect for that time.

Above all else, it’s important for me to enjoy what I do without feeling obligated. Even though sessions are work, if it’s fun it doesn’t seem like work. I also want my time and skill sets to be respected and not have clients viewing me as a means to an end i.e. viewing me as being here solely for their benefit, or not viewing me as a person with emotions and feelings.

I wrote the above not to insinuate ProDommes’ screening processes or sessions are conducted differently than my own. I’m simply writing this to acknowledge that I don’t consider myself a traditional Professional Dominatrix according to the views of clients who come to me with a porn-view.

I always end up with good working relationships with those I do accept as clients. We’re genuinely friendly with each other and look forward to scheduled sessions. I sometimes still refer clients elsewhere if they have kinks I don’t engage in. I sincerely want others to be fulfilled. I believe life is too short to hide our desires or parts of ourselves from those we say we love and are committed to.

Comments are always welcome. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the above article.

What are your thoughts on Professional Dominatrix work? Have you ever paid for ProDomme services? If so, what was your experience like? If you wouldn’t seek such services, why not?

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Dion

I journeyed from GED to a PhD in Psychology. I decided to focus on my writing once I retired from the clinical field. I write in various genres and have several WIPs for publication once edited. I post articles on this website for intellectual and entertainment purposes.

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