BDSM Lifestyle & the Leather Community

BDSM: Are You a Kinkster or Something Else?

I did a video asking you to think about whether you’re a Kinkster, active in the BDSM Community, or active in the M/s or Leather Community.

BDSM: Negotiating Adult Play Scenes or Sessions

Adult play is supposed to be fun, which is way it’s called “play.” However, there are still some safeguards we need to set in place, before we begin, to ensure a scene or session goes well.

I’m Not a Traditional Dominatrix

I’m friends with several women who identify as a Professional Dominatrix (ProDomme).

I’m Conflicted by POC Events (Black History Month Musings)

I appreciate how far this nation has come since the Civil Rights Movement and the days of Malcolm X and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. However, there still seems to be a long way to go. I had the idea to do this article in the fall, and find it fitting during Black History Month to feel motivated to write it.

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Profile Tells a Player from a Lifestyler

I’ve been on Fetlife about three years now and have noticed several ways to identify if someone is play- or lifestyle- oriented. The accompanying video can be found here.

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BDSM Acronyms to Indicate a Safe Player

I became aware of various acronyms regarding how to play safely when I joined Fetlife. The accompanying video can be found here.

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Frustration with Potential Clients

I have a screening process for potential clients and also a Consent Checklist for them to complete, if it gets that far. Why wouldn’t someone who contacts me for a service end up being an actual client? I’m glad you asked.

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Why My Previous Dynamics Didn’t Work Out

I realized why my previous D/s and M/s dynamics didn’t work out. A person would periodically ask me for something, my time, my clinical expertise, to help them explore their kinks, etc.

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