Dating Chronicles #4: Words Being Inconsistent with Actions & Attitudes

I’ve uploaded a YouTube video instead of writing an article for this topic.

In the video I share a dating story of how someone’s words didn’t match their actions. His attitude was problematic for me and also confusing. There are many lessons you can learn from my experience, which I’ll list below.

I do recommend you watch the video to have a better understanding of the situation as it unfolded at that time.

Lessons to learn:

First: If you ask someone a question, listen to their answer. Don’t cut them off.

Second: If someone is prepared to pay for the date, let them pay.

Third: Don’t insist on paying for the date if you don’t want to pay for it.

Fourth: Be open and honest with your feelings. Don’t put the other person in a position to feel forced into getting you to open up. Use your words.

Fifth: Recognize it’s a red flag when someone doesn’t want to communicate with you.

Sixth: Understand something is wrong when you began feeling uncomfortable or confused at their inconsistency.

I’d love to read your thoughts on the above summary and on the video. Have you been on either side of the situation I shared? How did you handle it? If you realized your words were inconsistent with your actions and attitudes, did you realize it at the time? If not, when did you realize it?

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I journeyed from GED to a PhD in Psychology. I decided to focus on my writing once I retired from the clinical field. I write in various genres and have several WIPs for publication once edited. I post articles on this website for intellectual and entertainment purposes.

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