He Called It Weak Fucking (#SexSaturday #DatingNotDating)

I told Braheem if he wanted to see people having sex to walk the long way around the room and come back to me. He returned with, “that was weak fucking! They were barely moving.” I inhaled slowly to collect my thoughts.

Weak.Rolling Eyes

I needed to filter my words because what I wanted to say was, “Motherfucker, you told me you haven’t had sex in over ten years and yet you say they’re weak fucking. What do you actually know about fucking?” I knew that would’ve sounded harsh so instead I asked, “What do you think? That sex is like in porn?” Braheem straightened his shoulders and tilted his chin to the ceiling and replied, “Yeah, that’s sex. What those people were doing over there isn’t sex.”

Weak f.Threesome

My oh my is this what this new generation is reduced to? Being sexless while insisting all sex is supposed to be as they’ve seen in porn. It was beyond me that someone who isn’t sexually active had such a strong reaction to what they thought sex was. “Well,” I said softly to mask my annoyance. “Sex in porn is the type of sex that people like you want to see and it’s not always based in reality. What you saw on the other side of the room was people having sex, actually more accurately they were making love.” Braheem didn’t respond. I wanted to educate him on the differences of fucking and making love, but was too annoyed to give him the lesson. His brain was tied up within itself and I didn’t want to waste my breath.

Weak F.not speaking

Those of us who are mature and have had meaningful sexual encounters, I say that to indicate a difference between casual sex or hookups which I know can be fun, know that fucking and making love are two separate things. They can be alternately used during a love making session, though they are really distinct methods of penetration. What I’m writing is my opinion.

Fucking is when you simply “fuck.” There isn’t any emotional bond, no love or sensitivity to the other person’s needs. You’re simply banging the hell out of her, or him, to get your satisfaction. You’re riding hard and fast to reach your goal. Your focus is on yourself.

What Braheem called “weak fucking,” is what I call “making love,” is when two people care about each other, maybe even love each other and are exploring each other bodies in a sensual way. Their movements are slow so they can feel every inch of every stroke. The feel of the cock hitting the cervix walls are unmistakably and undeniably climatic. The way they caress each other’s bodies during their dance is a feeling of love, caring, and wanting the other person to feel as good as they feel themselves. Neither person is selfish. The act is about both of them. Each person is focusing on heightening the sensations of the other.

 Weak F.love making

I’ll use an illustration of being at the beach on a warm sunny day:

*Fucking”: The water looks good so you run toward the shoreline and once up to your knees you dive in. The sting of the water hitting and covering your body is shocking, you enjoy it, but the feeling is over before you know it and you get up and walk out of the water. You go back and lie on your beach towel.

 Weak F.Diving in the ocean

“Making love”: The two of you are walking toward the shoreline, slowly so you each can feel the sand shift as your feet leaves their marks in it and it spreads between your toes. You savor the feel of the water gently washing up and onto your feet and then back out to the sea. You relish the coolness of the water and you hold hands and venture out a little deeper until the water is up to your knees. You decide to sit down in that spot, experiencing both the coolness of the waves covering your bodies and the warmth of the sun when the water flows away and off of you. The sensations are tingling, your nerve endings are on fire, your entire body is sensitive to the different feelings created by the slow caress of the water pushing and then pulling toward and away from you. You two sit for a while, holding hands, enjoying the moment. Your eyes turn toward the other and you lean in for a long, slow, titillating kiss.

 Weak F.kissing in the ocean

Fucking is about one person striving to achieve an immediate thrill. Making love is about sharing a journey of creating ongoing passionate sensations which end in the fulfillment of both people. Combining fucking and love making can be mastered. If you both like it hard and fast, go hard and fast and then switch things up and move in long slow strokes. Alternating between the two will also keep the aggressor from tiring out quickly if he or she has low stamina. Going back to the beach: it’s like sitting in the water enjoying the sweet sensations, then standing up and diving in, only to sit back down and bask in the awareness of the ebb and flow of the ocean’s current and how it feels against your body. The warmth of the sun is the sweet afterglow that’s only found after making love.

I’d love to read what you consider ‘fucking’ and ‘making love.’ Comments welcome.

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5 thoughts on “He Called It Weak Fucking (#SexSaturday #DatingNotDating)

  1. subrob

    “Fucking is about one person striving to achieve an immediate thrill. Making love is about sharing a journey of creating ongoing passionate sensations which end in the fulfillment of both people.” You said it so succinctly! Brilliant.
    To me, making love is about wanting to please my lover as much as she wants to please me. The more we BOTH try to make it sensational and sensual for each other, the more fantastic the experience is. The ideal love making “session” is to get to a point where it’s so intense and yet, enjoyable, that it will remain unforgettable. We’ll relive it over and over again in our minds many tmes in the years to come.
    That kind of lovemaking comes from giving to her, and striving to please her to the best pf my ability. Foreplay for me is the key.
    It should be long and sweet, erotic, and full of passion. Look into her eyes, kiss her uncontrollably, hug her and lick her and slowly tease her so that she wants more and more of me, and we both don’t want what we’re doing to – and for – each other to ever end.

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    1. Dion Post author

      Thanks. I have been away for a while. A lot of things have changed, but I’m back and getting back to posting regularly.

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