Friends with Benefits vs a Booty Call

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“FWB” is the common acronym for the term “Friends with Benefits.” What it means is that you’re friends with someone with a sexual benefit. FWB is different from a “Booty Call,” which is when individuals get together for trysts without any other commitment. Most people don’t realize the difference between FWBs and booty calls, which prompted me to write this article.

Friends, in general, communicate and spend platonic time together. FWBs are friends who like each other enough to toss sex into their free time. There’s a friendship commitment to FWBs, which is to not only get together for sex. One or both parties may or may not be involved in an actual relationship with someone else, or there may be an agreement for them to not see additional people. Many times friends become FWBs in-between actual relationships. The desire for sex can be very strong and not many people want to abstain until they find that special someone. So the next best person is a friend; someone you know who really cares about you and what goes on in your life.

A “booty call” is meeting up with someone just for the “booty;” just to have sex. There are no other commitments and both may even be seeing other people. It can be a one-night stand, though more often than not, there’s a mutual sexual attraction between two people who agree to simply have sex when they both feel like it. They don’t go on dates and may not even communicate except to say, “Can I come over tonight?” It’s unlikely these two know much about each other’s personal lives. The sole basis of them meeting is to have sex. You have to be able to compartmentalize in order to have or be a booty call partner.  

Although FWBs and booty calls are very different, they both have the same negative consequence. One of the parties may develop emotional feelings for the other. For that reason, communication is important. Be mature when engaging in either one of these ‘relationships’ and agree to tell each other if romantic feelings develop and what to do about them if it happens. The last thing you should want to do is to develop unreciprocated feelings for your FWB or booty call and get your feelings hurt or hurt theirs. And always, always, get tested and practice safer sex.

Have you ever had or been a FWBs or a booty call? How long did the ‘relationship’ last? How did it end and why?

I look forward to reading your thoughts.

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Dion

I journeyed from GED to a PhD in Psychology. I decided to focus on my writing once I retired from the clinical field. I write in various genres and have several WIPs for publication once edited. I post articles on this website for intellectual and entertainment purposes.

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