You’re dating someone and when you break up the other person immediately starts dating other people. Does it seem too soon? Was the person dating while you two were together? Let’s examine that. The gender term “she” will be used throughout this article, though each reason is NOT gender specific.
There are several reasons a person may date immediately after a breakup:
Category #1: The most assumed reason is that she was already dating other people, cheating on you, which is not necessarily the case so let’s look at other reasons.
Category #2: She saw a better opportunity with someone else. She didn’t want to cheat on you to date the other person so she broke up with you. She wanted to have a clear conscious when dating the other guy because she’s not a cheater.
Category #3: She immediately dates someone else to distract herself from thinking about you. She still has strong feelings for you and in dating another person she’s attempting to sever the emotional tie she has with you. In this case, she knows you’re not good for her and she’s trying desperately to fill the void of you not being in her life because she fears she’ll go back to you.
Category #4: She really wants you to show her you want to be with her. She likely felt unappreciated and taken for granted. She left you and is dating someone else to show you (and herself) that there is a guy out there who desires her. She’s willing to give you another chance, it’s you she really wants. However, she needs you to show her you really care and are motivated to show her how important she is in your life. If you don’t step up, you’ll lose her for good, especially if the guy she’s casually seeing is more attentive than you are.
Category #5: The relationship was emotionally over for her long ago and she was simply hanging on waiting for a new spark to be lit or waiting for a viable option to come along. Due to the emotional disconnection, she slips into the 2nd category because instead of leaving you sooner she waited until there was someone else available to her. She still isn’t a cheater. He’s likely someone she recently met, has an interest in, and she wants to see where it goes. Whether or not it develops into anything is not the point. The point is she is away from you and is open to having an emotional bond with someone.
With all of that said, this is not an exhaustive list. What are your experiences with dating after a breakup? Or your experiences and thoughts about someone dating another person “too soon” after your breakup?
I look forward to reading your thoughts.