I’m told often how honest and authentic I am. I often become annoyed when I realize that someone has been dishonest or is trying to take advantage of me.
I have a very difficult time understanding why some people are purposefully misleading.
I realized that it’s because I’m honest that I don’t understand why others aren’t. Whatever your strongest trait is, you have to realize and understand that everyone is not that way, and those who aren’t as you are may have a problem with the things you do. Just as you can’t understand why they’re upset, they don’t understand why you’re not.
You see in others what’s inside of yourself. If you’re an honest person – you expect others to be honest, you see people as being genuine and authentic. If you’re a person who attempts to take advantage of others – you’re always on guard thinking someone is trying to take advantage of you. If you always think people are being mean or abrasive toward you, it’s likely that you’re giving off a negative vibe that they’re reacting to. If you’re a helpful person, you’ll wonder why when you need help you don’t receive any. We see what we are inside and we have to realize that not all people we see are a reflection of ourselves.
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you yourself.” How about this one, “Birds of a feather flock together.” Those sayings are true. Think about it. Your closest friends share the same primary traits a you. If your friends are always saying how honest, authentic, helpful, caring, etc. you are, it’s because they’re the same way and they recognize it in you. So, beware if the people closest to you tell you that you always seem angry, hostile, unconcerned, self-centered, etc. You’re around them because you share those characteristics with them.
Think about it this way, if you’re such a caring person would you be close friends with a selfish person? If you’re such an authentic person, would you be friends with a compulsive liar? No, you wouldn’t. I’m not saying you wouldn’t be cordial to that person. I’m saying they wouldn’t be in your inner circle.
Think about it. What type of person are you? Look at your closest friends and their primary characteristics – what you see is a reflection of yourself.
I’d love to read your thoughts on the above article. What are some words others use to describe your personality?
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[this story is cross-posted from deborahldixon.com]