People usually tell you who they are and how they are by speaking.
They fail to realize that what they do or don’t do, in comparison, shows you who they really are; the type of person they are. Words are sometimes just words, while sounding good and carrying little meaning. For example, having emotional temper tantrums and saying you’re grown. Babies and children have temper tantrums, not mature adults.
Now that I’m thinking about it, as I’m writing this, I understand that a grown person can have a temper tantrum as if they were a child. Being a grown person doesn’t mean being a mature person. I’m smiling now as I think of how teenagers say, “I’m grown! Stop treating me like a child!” Not realizing they’re being treated like a child because they’re acting like a child. A mature person doesn’t have to tell you they’re mature, their actions speak for them. I Corinthians 13:11 KJV reads, “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”
Temper tantrums in children typically involve the child crying, whining, throwing things, falling down on the ground and flailing their arms and legs. Temper tantrums in adults are more emotional. They may isolate themselves from you, emotionally push you away from them with harsh words, blame you for their mistakes and mistreatment of you, behave in passive-aggressive ways, or engage in negative attention seeking behaviors.
There should, notice I said ‘should,’ come a time in everyone’s life when their mind begins to process things differently than when they were a child. As our bodies grow, so ‘should’ our understanding of ourselves and the world around us; enabling us to grow emotionally.
A grown person, lashing out when they don’t get their way or when things don’t go as they expected, is really an immature person who has yet to learn how to appropriately express their feelings. This person lacks emotional intelligence.
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